The Source Of Anxiety Is Fear

Has anxiety ever plagued you? Although most people are familiar with the sensation, have you ever considered what anxiety actually is? Many people mistakenly think that anxiety is a state of worry or trepidation when in fact it is fear. Every anxious feeling is usually accompanied by some fear, and in romantic relationships, that fear is frequently connected to being left behind, not wanted, not desired, or not having our needs met.

In this blog post, we'll look at the causes of anxiety and provide solutions.

The Source of Anxiety: Fear

Fear is a healthy emotion that keeps us safe in situations that could be dangerous. The fight or flight response is set off, preparing our body to either face the threat head-on or flee from it. On the other hand, excessive fear can result in anxiety. Anxiety is a sensation of fear or dread about an impending or possibly nonexistent event. Physical manifestations like sweating, an elevated heart rate, and shallow breathing are frequently present. Anxiety can appear in relationships as a fear of being left behind, rejected, or unloved. Numerous factors, such as genetics, brain chemistry, and life experiences, can contribute to anxiety. However, anxiety is fundamentally a reaction to fear. When we experience anxiety, our brain is essentially telling us that there is a threat or danger present, even if it's not a physical one.

Challenging Fear to Address Anxiety

Good news! Anxiety can be controlled and even defeated. By confronting the underlying fear, one of the best ways to do this is. This entails growing in self-awareness to recognize the underlying fear and then challenging the veracity of it.

Let's take an example where your main concern is that if you lose your partner, you won't be able to find someone who will love you in the same way. Even when there is no immediate danger of losing your partner, this fear may be making you anxious about your relationship. However, this anxiety is unfounded and is merely a fabrication of your mind.

You can remind yourself that this belief is only a thought and not reality in order to dispel this fear. If one person could love you, then a hundred more could. You can go on 100 dates if you've already been on one. You've likely done it numerous times already. And if others have succeeded but you haven't, you can too.

You can begin to recognize the fear for what it is—an unfounded belief that is causing unneeded anxiety — by challenging the veracity of the fear. The next step is to try to replace this fear with more empowering and uplifting ideas.

Ruminating on Positive Experiences

Concentrating on positive experiences is another method for dealing with anxiety. Spend your time reflecting on positive times when you felt loved, cared for, wanted, and desired rather than worrying and dwelling on negative thoughts. You can unconsciously give yourself the love and assurance you require by making this your default state and natural state.

By concentrating on happy memories, we essentially rewire our brains to view the world more positively. As a result, there may be less anxiety and more happiness and contentment.

Challenging Our Underlying Fears

We can start to confront our underlying fears if we can learn to be self-aware and recognize them. We can look more closely at this belief, for instance, if our primary concern is that if we lose our partner, we won't be able to find someone who will love us in the same way. Is this fear a result of previous events, or is it just a fabrication of our minds?

It's critical to keep in mind that our beliefs and thoughts don't always correspond to reality. Even though we may have formed particular thought patterns as a result of prior encounters or societal expectations, this does not imply that they are true or accurate. We can start to reframe our thinking and lessen anxiety by looking at our beliefs and challenging them.

Finding Perspective

Finding perspective is an effective way to combat our anxious thoughts. We can accomplish this by reminding ourselves of all the instances in which we have triumphed in the past or by exploring potential solutions to a problem. If we're concerned that a relationship will end, for instance, we can think back on previous relationships that ended and how we were able to move on and find happiness once more.

Keeping your attention in the here and now is another helpful method for gaining perspective. We frequently experience anxiety when we worry about the future or obsess over the past. We can feel less anxious and more at peace by focusing on the here and now and practicing mindfulness.

Changing Our Focus

Worrying and dwelling on unfavorable memories and experiences consumes a lot of our time and energy. We can, however, decide to change our perspective and give more thought to happy memories and experiences. We can develop a more upbeat outlook and lessen anxiety by doing this.

Developing a gratitude habit is one way to change our attention. We can develop a more optimistic mindset and lessen anxiety by setting aside time each day to think about what we are grateful for. Taking part in enjoyable and fulfilling activities, like spending time with loved ones or engaging in a hobby, is another effective strategy.

Reminding Yourself that You are Okay

Last but not least, it's critical to remind oneself that they are fine. Everyone has flaws because nobody is perfect. You can lessen some of the stress and anxiety that comes with trying to be perfect by accepting this and reminding yourself that you are a typical human being. It's crucial to keep in mind that everyone experiences anxiety at some point in their lives, and it in no way devalues or weakens you.

Anxiety is a challenging emotion to control because it is complex and frequently overwhelming. However, we can start to reframe our thinking and lessen anxiety by identifying the underlying fears that fuel our anxiety and challenging our beliefs. Finding perspective, shifting our attention, caring for ourselves, and getting support are other crucial anxiety management techniques. We can lessen anxiety and lead happier lives if we put our mental health and wellbeing first. It takes a change of perspective to confront our fears. We can direct our attention toward uplifting thoughts and memories rather than fretting and dwelling on unpleasant ones. We can start to rewire our brains to default to positive thinking by consciously choosing to recall instances when we felt loved, wanted, and desired.

Yours truly,

Michelle & Co.