It’s time to heal your anxious attachment.
Stop worrying and sabotaging. Become more secure and build healthy, loving relationships.
Have you felt insecure your whole life?
Constantly pretending? Low self-esteem? Hard time trusting others?
Sabotaging your relationships? Craving intimacy yet feeling unwanted?
You are not alone.
These are all symptoms of what is called an anxious attachment style. Psychologists found that 1 in 5 adults use this style to guide their relationships.
It is something we inherit from our childhood relationship with our parents, so it’s rarely our fault. Yet, it seems like it’s in charge of our life.
Anxious attachment causes us to obsess over whether someone wants us, is texting us, or is just thinking about us.
And when they don’t? We resent them and withdraw. And the negative feelings take over, leaving us paralyzed and unable to function in life.
The good news?
You can heal and become secure
Let me know if this sounds familiar.
If you are single:
Dating almost takes up your entire mind. You’ve been trying to find intimacy for a while. But, you just cannot seem to find the right connection, even though you have so much going for you.
You try to exercise, travel, read, learn instruments, buy nice clothes, work on yourself, and go to gatherings and meetups. All in hopes that one day you will finally be enough.
Yet, it seems most people don’t see that. They might give you compliments, but it doesn’t feel like you’ve gotten anywhere. And the times you do finally connect with someone, it just doesn’t feel right.
You might still be in contact with your ex(s), or you cannot seem to fully move on from them. If you’ve never had a relationship, you feel like you will never fully find love.
It feels very difficult to you, yet it seems easy for others. You blame your looks, personality, or situation. Yet, deep down, you know you’re actually a decently attractive person.
Why is it so hard to just find love… such a basic human need?
If you are in a relationship:
You wake up and go to check your phone, hoping for a text from your partner. If you don’t see a loving text, you feel weird and anxious, sometimes even resenting them.
You go about your day, they are always on your mind. Yet, you don’t know if you are on theirs. You hope that they will one day finally see your value and want you as much as you want them, but it never happens.
You find yourself pursuing them as they distance themselves. The intense intimacy you had in the beginning of the relationship seems to fade away each day. You’re with someone, yet you feel alone and insecure.
They try to meet your needs, yet it never feels enough. You constantly think about pulling away or breaking up. Your pride is shaken. You feel trapped and there’s no way out.
Sometimes, if you’re dating someone secure or more anxious than you, you may find the opposite dynamic happening. You may find them coming closer, while you constantly pull away, feeling lost.
Why can’t you just relax and be in a happy, stable relationship?
How do we know all of this?
Because we’ve lived through it.
It all begins with a decision. Do you want to spend the rest of your life feeling like this?
Or would you rather embrace your nature, finally feel lovable, and get your needs met?
Here’s how to heal…
There’s only one way to heal anxious attachment: by changing the belief system you currently hold about yourself and about other people.
This means you have to become someone who believes they are valuable, lovable, trusting, social, and able to find love and intimacy easily.
But that feels impossible when your thoughts and feelings are working against you all the time, right?
That’s where Love School comes in. We’ve brought together the resources, coaches, and community to help you become more secure.
When you join, 3 things will happen:
You will change your beliefs about yourself and begin thinking like a secure person.
You will belong to a safe community that you can come to for support in anxious times.
You will have access to a team of coaches who provide professional feedback when you need them.
Everything you need to heal…
After studying thousands of people and relationships affected by anxious attachment, we’ve distilled three necessary things that are needed to heal:
The right knowledge, beliefs, and skills needed to soothe and heal your attachment.
A safe community of supportive people to come to in times of emotional struggle.
Direct access to a psychologist who can help when needed, by providing reliable advice.
As a Love School member, you have all three elements in one place to help you become your most secure self.
What’s Included In a Love School Membership?
In short, everything you need to feel secure, once and for all.
Love School is like therapy for anxious attachment in your pocket.
But instead of having 1 coach or therapist, you have 5. And instead of scheduling an appointment with them once a week, you can send them a message whenever you want, and you can chat with them everyday.
Therapy Courses:
You will receive access to 23+ courses on every aspect of anxious attachment. These courses will show you exactly what to do to turn your life and your relationship around.
Course breakdown:
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The basics. What is anxious attachment, where it comes from, how it manifests, and how you can heal it.
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A course that teaches you how to integrate value, acceptance, lovableness, trust, and extroversion into your life.
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How to regulate your emotions in a healthy way, without damaging your relationship with someone.
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How to develop a healthy identity in which you are your own individual and can express yourself.
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How to build and maintain a healthy relationship that lasts and is full of love, intimacy, and desire.
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How to open up to others, be vulnerable, and invite connection into your life.
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How to develop a healthy and positive self-image that will help you feel comfortable and secure with anyone.
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Develop the ability to define your boundaries, set them, and voice them to others when needed, in a healthy way.
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What is codepedency, how does it manifest in your relationship, and what can you do about it.
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How to get over the feeling of being addicted to love, or to someone, and break free.
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Understand people with an avoidant attachment style so you know how to deal with them, and protect yourself.
And much, much more! Including meditations, daily content, session recordings, and new courses each week.
Community and Psychologists:
Once you join Love School, you will be part of a community of many others who understand what you’re going through.
The community contains spaces and a chat where you could post or vent, and is moderated by psychologists who will answer all of your questions.
We also have daily videos to help you learn about your anxious attachment and stay in the mindset of healing and security.
Unlimited Access To Daily Group Therapy Sessions
Each day, our psychologists go live for 1 hour in a group therapy session about anxious attachment.
You can join these sessions for free, and ask questions during each one.
Love School also comes with the following bonuses:
Heartbreak Remedy: A proven approach to heal and get over any breakup by coach Omir Dzelilovic
Personal Feedback: You can send your current situation to our coaches and receive feedback on it
Meet Your Guides On This Journey
Our team consists of certified & licensed psychologists and coaches.
Elisa Monti, PhD
Dr. Elisa Monti is a voice-specialized psychologist with a PhD from The New School for Social Research in New York, with a focus on attachment and childhood trauma.
Hannah Rivera, MSc
Hannah Rivera is a certified psychologist and psychotherapist with a masters in clinical psychology from the Hellenic American University. She’s an expert at CBT and psychodynamic therapy.
LeMeita Smith, PhD
Dr. LeMeita Smith is a mental health director and wellness expert with over 17 years of experience in therapy. She helps people build mental strength, develop life skills, and overcome life crises.
Melissa Maxx, Coach & Author
Melissa is a certified coach and best-selling author specialized in relationships and attachment, and with a focus on mindfulness, self-esteem, and self-worth.
World Class Therapy With A Personal Touch
Our coaches have the anxious attachment style, which means they can provide you with support not only through their therapeutic practice, but also through their own personal experience. They have been through what you are going through.
Are you ready to stop obsessing about others, become secure, and be present in your life again?
How do I get started?
If Love School helped you become secure and find fulfilling relationships, what would it be worth to you? Personally, I would give anything for that.
You can join now for as little as $99/month.
So, do you want to heal your anxious attachment? Please take the attachment quiz to make sure this is for you. If it is, you will be taken to the sign-up page.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: How fast will I become secure?
Most students experience their first shift in how they feel about themselves within 2 weeks. However, we believe it takes the full length of the program (3 months) to see a lasting change. It really isn’t all that complicated once you have the right guidance.
Q: What results can I expect?
Love School is based on proven psychology methods and therapies. After being on Love School for just a few weeks, you will feel the following changes in your life:
You will feel more comfortable around people
You will see yourself as a valuable and worthy person
You will start loving yourself more, and worrying less about what others think
You will know how to deal with anxiety whenever it comes up (which it will)
Your relationships will improve as a result of you becoming more secure (secure is attractive!)
Other people might notice you becoming more confident, calm, and happy
You will find it easier to be social and find love
If you are in a relationship, you will have a lot more clarity about the relationship
What Are People Saying?
4,126 Members And Growing.
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