Anxious Attachment: Why & What?
Anxious Attachment is one of the three attachment styles. It is something we inherit from our childhood relationship with our parents and is simply a coping mechanism in our relationship. More often, Anxious Attachment is due to inconsistent parenting. We develop a sense of protection that stems from the fear of abandonment, rejection, and being unlovable, which leads us to the necessity to protect ourselves.
In reality, it is rarely our fault. Yet, it seems like it takes over our life and we struggle to shake it off. However, we can develop a secure attachment style over time.
Abandonment, rejection, low self-esteem, and clinginess are common signs of Anxious Attachment.
We want to be loved, we want to feel secure, valued, and appreciated. We do not want to be left out or be in the dark.
Symptoms of having an Anxious Attachment
Thinks highly of others but often we suffer from low self-esteem.
Sensitive and attuned to our partners’ needs, but are often insecure and anxious about our own worth in a relationship.
Blame and label ourselves as not being worthy of love.
Constant reassurance that we are loved, worthy, and good enough.
Often afraid or even incapable of being alone.
Intimacy and closeness is incredibly dependent on others - strong emotional needs.
Anxious Attachment could feel like you are on an emotional roller-coaster all the time. It can cause anxiety, stress, unhappiness, low life satisfaction, and relationships might be both ‘life-saving’ and ‘life-threatening’.
If you need more help, join our courses. It will help you understand and grow through your Anxious Attachment.
Yours truly,
Michelle & Co.
